It's Ok To Not Be Ok ~ A Note from Katy
By Katy Agro Myers
As moms, we push through. We put ourselves on the back burner and take on whatever task is at hand. We triage our entire lives around whatever is happening at the moment. Pack the lunches, wash the uniforms, chauffeur the kids to practice, and make sure there are groceries. When something happens that sidelines us, we just keep pushing ourselves. Something that takes us by surprise. That makes us feel bad or upsets us. Tragedy. Medical emergencies. We still just keep on going because we have to do it. We still have to keep our families moving forward, even when something big is weighing on us. We tell ourselves, "I'll deal with it when I get the chance." Or "Let me just get through xyz, and then I can come up for air." I'm here to tell you. You don't need to keep going and pretend. It's ok to drop some balls. It's ok not to clean up the house right away. It's ok to not be ok. Let me repeat that.
It's ok to not be ok.
And you know what else? It's ok to not feel guilty about it. Sometimes we just need to be. The world will not end if you take time for yourself. No one will say to you, "You really let me down while you were going through that." (And if they do, send them to me and I'll set them straight.)
It's effing hard to always be positive. It's effing hard to always be grateful. Sometimes it's effing hard to keep going. (Sorry, Mom, for all the effings.) Sometimes life is just hard and messy. As moms, we try to fix it all. To be all the things. To set the tone in our homes and show our kids we can keep on plugging. But it's just as important to show our kids that it's ok to fall apart sometimes. It's ok to feel your feelings even if they aren't good ones. So if you're going through something right now, take a breath. Feel those feelings. Stop trying to keep going and just be in the moment and process it. I promise you'll be a better mom, wife, daughter, friend, colleague, etc for doing that instead of just continuing to plug along and letting it build up.
To the two amazing women in my life that I had this very conversation with yesterday - I believe in you! You will continue to do amazing things even if you don't feel like it right now. It's ok to not be ok.